How To Deal With Criticism
This is Part 5 of my series on other people’s opinions...
How To Handle Criticism
You are probably be OK with someone not liking you or prefer someone else, but you don’t want them criticizing you.
You don’t want to put yourself in a position where they are going to “hurt you.”
Here is the truth.
When you are putting yourself out there and doing what you do, you will probably be criticized.
That’s just the way it is.
So many people are unwilling to put themselves in the “line of fire” for criticism, because they are terrified of it.
What Is Criticism?
You cannot please everybody. People are going to not like stuff you do.
If you can handle criticism, if you can handle people not liking you, your life will explode.
Just think of all the things you would be willing to do, the chances you would be willing to take…
Be willing to put yourself out there enough so people do have an opinion of you. People can either like you or not like you.
There Will Be Haters
It doesn’t matter how amazing a person is, it doesn’t matter what they have done in the world, there is always haters.
Just assume the more people that know about you, the more you stand for something, the more haters you are going to have.
If you can allow space for that in your life, you will find your people.
That’s truly all you need!
Criticism Is NOT Painful
If someone says …
“You are so rude to your husband? Or “Don’t you think Janice looks very unprofessional?”
If we take it to mean something about us, it can be devastating.
It is when somebody criticizes us and we take it on and believe it and we make it mean something about ourselves – then it is devastating.
Now for example and if someone is to say to you “I hate your green hair” you don’t really get devastated by it because you know you don’t have green hair.
If someone makes a criticism towards you and it is something that you know is not true then it just washes over you.
It is when someone criticizes you and there is part of you that believes it, that it gets to you.
If someone criticizes you and you make their opinion mean something about you, that’s when you get into the trouble.
Don’t Hide From Criticism
When you start really hiding to try and get away from criticism, because you don’t want to expose yourself to that hurt is when you are allowing other people to control you.
The only reason you don’t want to expose yourself to it is, because of what you are making it mean.
That’s really good to know.
You are the one causing all your pain, not the people that are criticizing you.
Your believing it, taking it on and making it mean something.
You can allow people to criticize you and allow them to have opinions of you and allow them to judge you and not make it mean something about you.
Not make it mean that you are unworthy or incapable or not good enough, then it can actually have the opposite effect.
Many times this is caused by early childhood messages we got from our parents or some type of trauma.
I have worked successfully with many people to shift painful memories and mental blocks.
Contact me and I can share with you my process.