How To Make My Relationship Better

Do You Feel Stuck In A Challenging Relationship?
Most people experience frustration from time to time in their relationships whether it is romantic, a family member or a coworker.

It always comes down to this…
The Other Person Is The Problem
Clients try to convince me all the time that everybody agrees the other person is the […]

How To Make My Relationship Work Better

Are You Are In A Challenging Relationship?
Most people believe their relationship is challenging, because of the way the other person is acting, but they are wrong!

Click here to read the first article of this series on challenging relationships.
Where Are You In Your Relationship?
Are you wondering how to make your relationship work better?

Here’s the temptation…

You want […]

What Makes A Relationship Challenging

So What Makes A Relationship Challenging?
Most people believe it is because of the way the other person is acting, but they are wrong!

It is simply their judgment or thinking about the other person.

You could have the exact same relationship with the exact same dynamics…

One person thinks it’s a problem and that it’s challenging.

Someone else […]

How to Transform Your Love Life

What Is The Key To Transforming Your Love Life?
Loving And Feeling Loved
In her book, “Hold Me Tight”, Dr. Johnson describes how the Attachment theory explains the need for attachment in adult love, just like in childhood.

As adults, we feel loved based on how emotionally responsive our partner is to our needs.

Just like in childhood, […]

What Is Love Attachment?

Key Moments Of Love Attachment And Detachment
In my first blog I shared, Dr. Susan Johnson’s theory from her book, “Hold Me Tight”, that the level of  love attachment in relationships is what makes couples compatible or not.

Couples can feel compatible for days on end, but when some incident happens all hell breaks loose.

Why?

Dynamic exchanges […]

What Creates Love Compatibility?

What Creates Love Compatibility and Incompatibility?
Most relationship therapists’ focus on helping couples, caught in destructive power struggles and fighting patterns, learn how to negotiate and improve their communication skills.

It rarely works and here is why…

According to Dr. Sue Johnson, who wrote the book, “Hold Me Tight” they are missing the boat.

The real core problem […]

Are You Seeking Other People’s Approval?

Are You Seeking Other People’s Approval?
This is part 4 of my series on Other People’s Opinions.
Stop Hiding From Criticism

One way that a lot of us deal with criticism is to hide, because we feel like we can’t handle the criticism.

Really all you can’t handle is your interpretation of the criticism.

Can you allow for that?

That’s […]

How To Stop Wanting Other People’s Approval

How To Stop Wanting Other People’s Approval
This post is the next in the series of how to stop worrying about other people’s opinion.

Click here to read the first article.
The Reason We Don’t Want People Not To Like Us
What does it mean when someone doesn’t like you?

You many be tempted to make it mean that […]

Other People’s Opinions Don’t Matter

The Truth Is Other People’s Opinions Don’t Matter
What you have to figure out is….Who Are YOUR People?

There will always be people who don’t like you, but those aren’t your people.

The people that do like you are YOUR people.

They are the people who love being with you and who you love being with too.

The […]

Other People’s Opinions

Do You Worry About Other People’s Opinions Of You?

Have you ever tried to mold yourself into something you are not just to influence what other people think about you?

You may have worried…

“What will people think if I try or do that?”

“How will they think I look? Will they like what I’m wearing?”

What did I […]