Dealing With Lack Of Appreciation?

What Causes A Lack of Appreciation?

Here is a typical scenario I often hear…

The husband is constantly complaining how hard he has to work, “I have to put in more hours every day composing emails, when I used to just be able to walk down the hall and talk to people. There is also so […]

How Do Attachment Styles Affect My Relationship?

How Does Your Attachment Style Affect Your Relationship?
In my last post I shared with you the psychology of how and why we attach to our romantic partners in much the same way we did with our parents.

I also think it would be helpful for you to understand your partner’s attachment style to help make […]

Attachment Styles In Relationships

Have You Heard Of The Attachment Style Theory?
I have just finished reading the book Attached by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller and found it super helpful in understanding why some people are hyper-focused on intimacy and others push it away.
Dependency Is Not A Bad Word
Numerous studies show that once you become attached to someone […]

How To Stop Criticizing Your Partner

Why Do We Criticize Others?
Criticism brings out the worst in men and women.

Men actually think they are good at taking criticism, but it is not true.

The reason we criticize someone is that we are trying to get someone to do or accomplish something.

Our compulsion to criticize is our instinctual way to get what we […]

When Adults Need Time-Outs

The Best Defense Against Verbal Abuse Is A Formal Time-Out.

I am sure you have heard of time-outs and may have used them with your kids.

Ironically they also work extremely well with headstrong adults too.

When you call for a time out, you are signaling to your partner the following:
I can’t handle the […]

How To Make My Life Perfect

Wondering How To Make Your Life Perfect?
Create Your Perfect Day Itinerary
This will set you up for creating the life you’ve always dreamed of and how to live it every day.

In this exercise, your job is to map out what your perfect day looks like and then the steps you’ll need to take to achieve […]

Relationship Communication Quiz

Relationship Communication Quiz
The following questions will help you discover your particular style when it comes to relating to others.

Do you try to control conversations?

If you do, are you aware of it in the moment? Do you have a conscious reason for doing this? What are the feelings the underlying reasons for your need […]

How To Stop Being A People Pleaser

How To Stop Being A People Pleaser And Stand Up For Yourself

Have you ever found yourself…

Helping people even though it takes away time from yourself and your family?
Letting that angry person rage and vent, while you try to soothe them with humor or kindness?
Putting up with cutting-remarks or jabs, instead of speaking up?
Allowing that […]

What is Success In Relationships?

What is Success In Relationships and Life?
She was one of the most powerful women on Wall Street and named to Time’s 2002 list of “Global Influentials” and Fortune’s Most Influential Person Under the Age of 40.

She made a name for herself as head of Merrill Lynch’s global wealth management division.

In spite of leading the […]

Change Your Mind By Changing Your Beliefs

Change Your Mind By Changing Your Beliefs
In the last post I shared how our brains actually resist change.


Because any type of change for the older brain is primarily a message of unsafe or unknown and if it’s unknown or unsafe I could get killed.

The brain gets stuck in telling the same old story.  The only […]